Duncan Grant
Duncan Grant's Journal"Closer to Fine" -- Indigo Girls
“…well, darkness has a hunger that’s insatiable,
And lightness has a call that’s hard to hear…”
Because, if one says a black woman is offering a "passive aggressive racist tirade"...
one should feel no shame or trepidation in saying it to her face (so to speak). That’s why.
**Source: Robin DiAngelo, "White Fragility" (a woman author who's not mansplainin')**
The term “white fragility” was coined by the Seattle-based educator and author Robin DiAngelo.
She defines it as “a state in which even a minimum amount of racial stress becomes intolerable, triggering a range of defensive moves. These moves include the outward display of emotions such as anger, fear and guilt, and behaviors such as argumentation, silence and leaving the stress-inducing situation.”
It just occurred to me that some here must be unaware of “White Fragility” (2018). If so, it would explain a lot. If not, never mind. I have no interest in arguing about this important book. Especially, if you haven’t read it.
Emotions don't win arguments.
My recommendation for readers of this thread is to view the video with the intention to learn, not react. The video has legitimacy. Also of interest are the longer comments near the end of this thread. They are thoughtful responses worth your consideration.
I looked up the transcript, here it is verbatim:
PETE DOMINICK, COMEDIAN: I am having such a hard time trying to understand so many of the arguments, but I firmly believe, given the outcome, that it wasn't the candidate and it wasn't the policies.
[22:20:13]
Sadly, that many more people like this disgusting, horrible, horrible man. And he's popular. People like what he has done. People like how he behaves.
They appreciate and root for his cruelty.
And I just had dinner with my 19-year-old daughter, who I hadn't seen since the election here in the city. She's a student here. And she's terrified. And I didn't even recognize her because she's been crying so much and she posted tonight. She said, as a woman, I'm terrified.
This election was a harsh reminder that a woman could be everything she needs to be, but it's still not enough. She said the majority of this country has chosen hate over humanity. It was a stark choice. It was a stark choice in 2016. I was on The Apprentice in 2004 and had the opportunity to meet Donald Trump and I said, I don't want to meet that guy. He's a horrible guy. He's always been a horrible person and people like that.
This is who we are. I think it's really important to be honest about who too many of us are, too many of us.
Voters were well informed and chose criminality anyway. They're accomplices.
Bookmarked your nugget of unvarnished truth. I’m still shocked by the results. Spiteful imbeciles — they hate democrats and “libruls”, fiercely. It’s an organizing principle of the maga identity. Are atrocities far behind?
Mark Morford: Buy a Gun
AKA 27 things I’ve learned from social media in 72 hoursThis is not my normal content. Actually, it sort of is, as what you're about to read is more or less exactly the kind of material I used to write about every week, for close to 20 years for the SF Chronicle, in my once semi-famous opinion column, which ran from the depths of 1998 through the latter half of 2017…
Please note that most of the following tips and perspectives do not come from me (though I've added commentary and emphasis to many of them). This is a batch of responses I’ve been gleaning from some of the more thoughtful, heartbroken, but also supremely fierce humans who have been streaming through my social media feeds in the past 72 hours – mainly young women…
1. Buy a gun. I do not recognize myself for saying this, but if you are a progressive young woman living in or around a red state, and/or anywhere near frat bros, tech bros or any kind of bro, buy a gun. Even if you’ve been passionately anti-gun, anti-violence, anti-NRA as I’ve been my entire life and career, it has become blindingly clear that a shocking majority of American men do not give a fuck for your rights, your health, or your bodily autonomy. And they are displaying this gleeful misogyny right now, in full and grotesque force, all across social media…
Remaining list here.
This is excellent food for thought, extremely relevant to women’s lives, and a great preparation exercise. Topics: stock up on birth control, update your passport, reveal nothing about your life or your friend’s lives, considering a divorce (do it now), download the Signal app, leaving the country — and more. (Bookmark this thread.)
So many white people getting away with it. How trumpian.
Millions of white Christian people didn’t vote for Harris, either. They’re ungrateful and disloyal, too. After all, we stuck our necks out to secure their safety, health and prosperity. You want to win elections? Start with the entitled and profoundly ignorant white people.
And why were white woman abandoning the Democratic Party? We stuck our necks out for them, too. Are we to support policies that hurt them further, or not be bothered by their suppression and persecution? I demand satisfaction and obedience. They owe it and I earned it. (Extending the absurdity to accentuate this line of non-thinking.)
Pathetic excuses.
And you’re still not talking about the white people who could have voted for Harris in droves—had they not slept thru an election in blankets of privilege.
***This is outrageous bigotry and racism.***
Your enemy is the dominant culture/hegemony; not marginalized people.
There are millions of white Christian people who f*cked you over with a Jesus hard-on. You’ll tolerate that, but the Muslim suicide bombers ruined your election? Bullshit. How come you don’t have a problem with the white people that betrayed you? They’re the ones who could have made a difference. The ones so disengaged in their privilege that they might as well be anesthetized.
For fuck’s sake. I knew the right-wing was deplorable, but this?! 🤮
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